Further to my generalised article about culture shock, I decided to expand on certain aspects of this expat-relevant condition. As mentioned before, culture shock may hit you at a certain point of your stay in your new country; this may be instant, it may take about six months or even happen several years down the line.
Culture shock graph
There is a general graph that displays this movement.
Sometimes called the ‘Cultural Adaptation Curve’ amongst other titles, the shape is basically the same, clearly displaying that you do get over culture shock. After the big dip, the graph curves up again. Personally, I think that graph over-simplifies the process and I have created another one which is more accurate, and more fun, I think. You can fill in your narrative for this as you please.
Then, in the process of creating the graph above, and whilst writing the first post in this culture shock series, it dawned on me that I am still suffering culture shock after eighteen months of living here. I recognise in myself many, if not most, of the symptoms – both psychological and physical. I got a little distracted and tried to plot my own graph for the past few years.
I know what I am supposed to do – get out there, meet people etc, and believe me, I have tried and tried. I know it isn’t ‘me’, as I had no problem in Tokyo or even in the UK, but here… well, it is just not happening.
As tempting as it is to blame the place, apparently that is a symptom of culture shock in itself, so it’s hard to know where to go from that!
If anyone has any off-the-wall suggestions, please do let me know because I have tried absolutely everything in my power so far.
How does your personal graph look? It’s an interesting, if slightly time-consuming, exercise. And quite an eye-opener into expat resilience.
[Update: it’s now May 2013 and I can happily report that my cultural adaptation graph is back on the upturn! This has absolutely nothing to do with the country I’m living in right now, and more to do with the fact that I’m moving elsewhere. A lot has happened over the past few months, and this sense of ‘moving on’ is both metaphorical as well as literal. Whilst I realise I’m not supposed to ‘blame the country’, in my mind it’s obvious that not every relocation is a good one.]
10th February 2014
I’ve updated that graph now. As you can see I’m back ‘up there’ and can conclude that it wasn’t a culture shock problem in Berlin – I just didn’t like it there! Obviously this is a very simplified illustration of my life over the past few years – and it does look in this graph as if my mood was rising whilst in Berlin. This gentle climb was entirely down to me creating ExpatChild and the lifeline this project gave me.
It also shows that some countries just do not suit everyone. It’s not a failure to dislike a country that other people adore. I know I love some places that others can’t bear; everyone is different!
Other articles on this subject:
- Minimizing culture shock in both parent and child
- Dealing with culture shock
- Culture shock in children