How to move overseas with children

Carole Hallett MobbsExpat Kids, Preparation & Planning, Preparing kids6 Comments

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10 tips to help you move abroad with your kids

Help turn your relocation overseas with your children into a smooth move with these tips.

An out-of-town move can be stressful for children. If you’re embarking on a move abroad it can be even more daunting. Here are some ways to make your kids’ transition easier.

1. Keep them in the loop

As soon as you know there’s even a possibility of a relocation, include your children in the conversation. Don’t wait then spring it on them. Listen properly to their concerns and tell them to come to you with their fears, anxieties and questions. And never dismiss their worries as being trivial because they are anything but that to your child.

2. Explain everything, assume nothing

Assume your children know nothing about what a move entails. Very young children will be confused about what they’re able to take and what they can’t. They don’t always know what is part of the house and what can’t come with them. For example, my daughter was upset that her bed couldn’t move with us because our furniture is provided for us in our new home.

Assure them that all their toys, clothes, furniture and belongings will be put into boxes and taken to the new house. Walk around your house with your child. Have him point to things and tell him, “Yes, your bed is going to the new house.” “No, that wall is going to stay here.”

3. Involve them in the home buying process

If possible, take your children along on your house hunt. Make clear at the onset that the final decision is up to the adults, but that their opinions will be considered. If you can’t take them along, keep them involved. Take pictures of the houses you’re considering and bring them back to show the kids.

4. Plan a nice goodbye

Before you move, throw a going-away party for your kids. Invite their friends and ask each guest to bring along a piece of advice for your child for his first day at his new school.

5. Make the transition fun

Plan to splurge a little bit on transitioning from one home to another. Spend a night in a hotel with an indoor pool. Go to fun, kid-friendly restaurants for meals. Set aside time to see a movie or go roller skating.

6. Know your child’s new school

School is the centre of your child’s universe. He’ll only be happy if he’s happy in school.

As soon as you know where you’ll be living, contact the school and get information on how to register and what documents and paperwork are required. Specifically ask about transitioning between classes and what supplies your child will need. As soon as possible, meet personally with the guidance counselor, principal and your child’s teachers and take a tour of the building with your child, so he can familiarize himself with his new surroundings.

7. Reward them

Find something new, good and different about the new house or town and play it up. Look for a house with a rec room. Buy a trampoline for the new, bigger back yard. Sign the kids up for a class at the Children’s Theater. Give this new place something the old one didn’t have.

8. Add some extras

Before you unpack the first box, sign your children up for scouts, sports, clubs and other activities. These smaller groups may be a welcome group of new friends for them. They’ll feel more a part of their new home once they’re involved in activities.

9. Make their rooms a priority

Before you start fixing up the new house, do your kids a favor and let them redecorate their rooms first. Let them pick out a paint color and a new bedspread. Having a place they feel comfortable and can call their own will work wonders for their settling in.

10. Explore

Once you arrive in the new place, start exploring. What does your new location have that you’ve never experienced? Start reaping the benefits of your new environment right away. Your kids will feel like they’re on a vacation.

 

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6 Comments on “How to move overseas with children”

  1. I moved about 10 months ago to the Dominican Republic with 3 children. I appreciate you sharing this post, because it does make a lot of sense. Most of the things that were mentioned on this post, really do ease the stress of the transition of the move on the kids. Thanks for all of the helpful information on the blog.

  2. The most common mistake parents make is not telling the kids. Remember how much you wanted a toy you couldn’t have? That slew of emotions and most likely tears. Kids know when they are going outside of their usual bounds of home, school, parks and the store. make sure you express the move and the reasoning of the move. The “good-bye party” is an idea our company truly believes in. Gather the best of friends and throw a party. Even writing Good-Bye letters are great.

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